Every Tuesday morning at 6:30 AM I meet with a bunch of buddies (I know, it makes me sound like some old retired fart but I’m not! Far from it.). We get together to talk about life, how to be good leaders, how to be good husbands, how to be good sons, how to be good fathers and how to live according to the Bible. (For those of you who aren’t interested in God or religion stick around because this post is for everyone regardless of what you believe.)
Long story short, we have some really great discussions and learn things that each of us alone may not have learned had we not met. Today I want to share a simple tip that I have found to be particularly useful that I have learned from my group.
If you want to change, do one thing daily
Sounds simple enough right? Well, yes and no. Getting started is easy. How many times have we started a new exercise program only to be burned out in a few weeks and give up? How many blogs have been started and after a few weeks have never been touched again? The answer is lots and lots.
Why is it so hard?
The problem is we look for instant gratification and when we don’t see it we give up. It’s natural. We work hard and we want to reap the rewards for it. So, how do we change our thinking so that we can stay true to our goal without giving up?
How do we succeed?
We change our mindset for doing what we do. In other words, we don’t focus on the reward but on something greater.
For example, instead of focusing on how you may feel after losing 10 lbs from an exercies program, you should focus on how others would benefit by your being more fit. Your kids would have a better playmate, a great example of how to ‘take care’ of their body and others who are struggling to lose weight could be inspired by your accomplishments.
Let’s say you are a writer as another example. Ultimately you want to make money from your book but that shouldn’t be the focus. Your focus is your reader. Instead of thinking about the reward (royalty checks) look to the person who could benefit or get enjoyment from your writings.
The ancient philosopher Confucius said:
If I am walking with two other men, each of them will serve as my teacher. I will pick out the good points of the one and imitate them, and the bad points of the other and correct them in myself.
While I don’t embrace every philosopher’s opinions this is spot on. People who see you living and working for a higher purpose will see it and learn from you.
To find success you need to be consistent. It’s hard. You can overcome burnout by changing your mode of thinking.
Make today a great day by doing just 1 thing toward your goal. And when you do it keep the focus on the people that will benefit because of your hard work.